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Finding joy after loss by living a little now

We all know in our hearts that we may die tomorrow, so it’s important to live a little NOW. Do whatever it is that you have postponed and do it as soon as possible.

According to the author Bronnie Ware, there are 5 top regrets of the dying. “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.”, she quotes in her book.

Have you ever watched the television show America’s Got Talent? Those contestants are pursuing their dreams. One contestant, Jane Marczewski, a singer known by her stage name Nightbirde, stood out in the 2021 season. Despite her ill health due to cancer, and terminal prognosis, she auditioned anyways. At 30 years old she had a 2% chance of survival. Her rationale was “You can’t wait until life isn’t hard anymore until you decide to be happy”. After singing her original song called “It’s OK.”  she received the golden buzzer. Due to her illness, she had to drop out of the competition at one point. She passed away at the age of 31 in 2022.

In a nut shell, you must choose to allow yourself to enjoy life.  Dare yourself to do things you really want to do.  Then accept the dare. The article, Finding Joy After Loss supports this concept by suggesting “Practice Joy. In addition to being present with the grief, it’s equally important to practice opening to joy. Make time to do things that you love, and give yourself permission to feel good again.”

In conclusion I leave you to ponder this quote. “May the shortness of our lives ever remind us of the preciousness of so great a gift.” Amanda Achtman, blogger of Dying to Meet You.


Sources stories to undo the taboo Golden Buzzer: Nightbirde's Original Song Makes Simon Cowell Emotional - America's Got Talent 2021 – YouTube (7 ½ minutes long)


Finding Joy After Loss Healing strategies for dealing with loss and grief Posted April 2, 2013 by Eric R. Maisel Ph.D.

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